Sexuality

[Aglan]

Nov 10, 2017 12:07:44 GMT 1 inactivo (nq era) said:

I think I've crushed in a boy that I see every day on the subway 😐 he is probs str8 😢

My two friends are gay too and they think same thing about people they have crush on and I personally don´t understand why

[inactivo (nq era)]

Feb 14, 2018 20:42:06 GMT 1 Aglan said:

Nov 10, 2017 12:07:44 GMT 1 inactivo (nq era) said:

I think I've crushed in a boy that I see every day on the subway 😐 he is probs str8 😢

My two friends are gay too and they think same thing about people they have crush on and I personally don´t understand why

Beacuse there is more % of one boy being str8 than gay actualy

[alex(a)bg]

the OP is full of bullshit 

[HATÅRI]

I don't know, I feel like being bisexual was somewhat of a choice for me.
I've always said it isn't a choice, but if I actually face this question again, I could've ignored my attraction to certain men very easily and lived life as a straight man, but only because people around me have shown me that it's ok to be attracted to both sexes, I've made the decision to accept it.
If I had lived in an alternate, nonexistent, hetero-phobic society, it is very likely that I would've forgotten about my female crushes and only went to pursue the love of men I'm attracted to.
Then again, it happens a lot more often that I find a woman attractive than I find a man attractive (though I seem to be more appealing to gay men than to straight women), and like Idk, saying "I would go gay for _____" and "I would go straight for _____" just goes to show how much of a choice it is.
I'd go fully straight for Cláudia.

Anyway, SCF, I'm glad to announce that I'll soon be going on my first date with a guy next Tuesday

[Julian]

Apr 6, 2018 13:51:53 GMT 1 HATÅRI said:

I don't know, I feel like being bisexual was somewhat of a choice for me.
I've always said it isn't a choice, but if I actually face this question again, I could've ignored my attraction to certain men very easily and lived life as a straight man, but only because people around me have shown me that it's ok to be attracted to both sexes, I've made the decision to accept it.
If I had lived in an alternate, nonexistent, hetero-phobic society, it is very likely that I would've forgotten about my female crushes and only went to pursue the love of men I'm attracted to.
Then again, it happens a lot more often that I find a woman attractive than I find a man attractive (though I seem to be more appealing to gay men than to straight women), and like Idk, saying "I would go gay for _____" and "I would go straight for _____" just goes to show how much of a choice it is.
I'd go fully straight for Cláudia.

Anyway, SCF, I'm glad to announce that I'll soon be going on my first date with a guy next Tuesday

but ignoring your "desires" isn't choosing to be straight lol. Having a choice would mean you could simply stop being attracted to men but if you decided to not act on your bisexuality that wouldn't make you straight, it would only mean that you have bisexual feelings but decided not to act on them. Acting on your feelings obviously is a choice but you can't choose who you have feelings for. Judging from what you're saying you are probably just bisexual leaning towards women and that doesn't mean that the side of you attracted to men is something you could just remove from your personality by not acting on it. And to be honest, a bisexual person can't really say "I'd go straight for xyz" because you already are attracted to both genders so it's not really a challenge for you to be attracted to a woman. A straight guy saying "I'd go gay for xyz" is either not serious or he's bisexual and doesn't want to admit it. But I'm pretty sure every gay person in this forum can tell you, that it's not a choice and that you can't just say "today I'll be sexually attracted to women and my interest in men will die out completely". You could try to act that way but you can't force yourself to be attracted to something you're not
As you said, it's a decision to accept who you are but not accepting who you are doesn't mean that you become a different person. If you'd only go for women your bisexual feelings would not die out completely

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sorry for this long text, but I kinda felt the need to explain myself because it most definitely is not something I chose to be

[HATÅRI]

Apr 6, 2018 15:23:49 GMT 1 Julian said:

Apr 6, 2018 13:51:53 GMT 1 HATÅRI said:

I don't know, I feel like being bisexual was somewhat of a choice for me.
I've always said it isn't a choice, but if I actually face this question again, I could've ignored my attraction to certain men very easily and lived life as a straight man, but only because people around me have shown me that it's ok to be attracted to both sexes, I've made the decision to accept it.
If I had lived in an alternate, nonexistent, hetero-phobic society, it is very likely that I would've forgotten about my female crushes and only went to pursue the love of men I'm attracted to.
Then again, it happens a lot more often that I find a woman attractive than I find a man attractive (though I seem to be more appealing to gay men than to straight women), and like Idk, saying "I would go gay for _____" and "I would go straight for _____" just goes to show how much of a choice it is.
I'd go fully straight for Cláudia.

Anyway, SCF, I'm glad to announce that I'll soon be going on my first date with a guy next Tuesday

but ignoring your "desires" isn't choosing to be straight lol. Having a choice would mean you could simply stop being attracted to men but if you decided to not act on your bisexuality that wouldn't make you straight, it would only mean that you have bisexual feelings but decided not to act on them. Acting on your feelings obviously is a choice but you can't choose who you have feelings for. Judging from what you're saying you are probably just bisexual leaning towards women and that doesn't mean that the side of you attracted to men is something you could just remove from your personality by not acting on it. And to be honest, a bisexual person can't really say "I'd go straight for xyz" because you already are attracted to both genders so it's not really a challenge for you to be attracted to a woman. A straight guy saying "I'd go gay for xyz" is either not serious or he's bisexual and doesn't want to admit it. But I'm pretty sure every gay person in this forum can tell you, that it's not a choice and that you can't just say "today I'll be sexually attracted to women and my interest in men will die out completely". You could try to act that way but you can't force yourself to be attracted to something you're not
As you said, it's a decision to accept who you are but not accepting who you are doesn't mean that you become a different person. If you'd only go for women your bisexual feelings would not die out completely

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sorry for this long text, but I kinda felt the need to explain myself because it most definitely is not something I chose to be

First of all, I'll start off by saying I genuinely respect the coherence and eloquence of your post - It actually did convince me that you have a strong point.
I guess I always thought of it as if everybody is bisexual and just choose whether to ignore or not ignore their attraction to one of the sexes, and never thought of how stupid that sounds.
That still would be an interesting subject to psychologically research.

[Julian]

Apr 7, 2018 9:59:11 GMT 1 HATÅRI said:

Apr 6, 2018 15:23:49 GMT 1 Julian said:

but ignoring your "desires" isn't choosing to be straight lol. Having a choice would mean you could simply stop being attracted to men but if you decided to not act on your bisexuality that wouldn't make you straight, it would only mean that you have bisexual feelings but decided not to act on them. Acting on your feelings obviously is a choice but you can't choose who you have feelings for. Judging from what you're saying you are probably just bisexual leaning towards women and that doesn't mean that the side of you attracted to men is something you could just remove from your personality by not acting on it. And to be honest, a bisexual person can't really say "I'd go straight for xyz" because you already are attracted to both genders so it's not really a challenge for you to be attracted to a woman. A straight guy saying "I'd go gay for xyz" is either not serious or he's bisexual and doesn't want to admit it. But I'm pretty sure every gay person in this forum can tell you, that it's not a choice and that you can't just say "today I'll be sexually attracted to women and my interest in men will die out completely". You could try to act that way but you can't force yourself to be attracted to something you're not
As you said, it's a decision to accept who you are but not accepting who you are doesn't mean that you become a different person. If you'd only go for women your bisexual feelings would not die out completely

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sorry for this long text, but I kinda felt the need to explain myself because it most definitely is not something I chose to be

First of all, I'll start off by saying I genuinely respect the coherence and eloquence of your post - It actually did convince me that you have a strong point.
I guess I always thought of it as if everybody is bisexual and just choose whether to ignore or not ignore their attraction to one of the sexes, and never thought of how stupid that sounds.
That still would be an interesting subject to psychologically research.

I actually made an assignment on that for high school like 2 years ago, there has not been found a sure cause of homosexuality (or any sexuality) yet and psychological theories can basically only explain why or why not people decide to accept and act on their sexuality, which mainly depends on your family and friends plus the values you developed throughout your life. But as I said, if you feel attracted to the same gender but ignore that desire, that doesn't make you straight. Even about 100 years ago Freud already stated, that trying to turn a homosexual straight through therapy doesn't work, which is one argument against the "It's a choice"-theory

[SBINNALA]

Charice is now Jake Zyrus First she is Lesbian then She is Male

[inactivo (nq era)]

Nov 10, 2017 12:07:44 GMT 1 inactivo (nq era) said:

I think I've crushed in a boy that I see every day on the subway 😐 he is probs str8 😢

Update: same status...

[Callum]

So I said I would say something yesterday if Cyprus won... apparently half of the fanbase believe they are the real winners in spite of last night so I guess I'm still able to say this lmaooo - I would have said this anyway

You may know me as the forum's resident asexual - and a pretty staunch one as well. For a good while, I felt that I had 0% attraction towards anyone or anything - sexually and romantically - and I embraced that about myself. Like being straight defines a person, asexuality defined me too.

This post is the hardest I've had to make in a long time. For almost a year now, I'd been conflicted with what I really am. Over the past years where I had identified myself as an asexual, I had let it become part of my persona and as soon as I began having doubts about myself for whatever reason, I ended up playing this charade and lying to everyone through my teeth, even at their lowest points in life, probably to make myself happy. Even though I was still trying to figure out who I am, I was pretty sure that by November last year that I definitely wasn't asexual.

More recently however, there have been events and people in my life that have changed everything about how I view myself, and they have taught me the importance to have faith in myself and to just believe in who I am. I don't want to go into too many details yet about how I've come to this stage in my life, but I really want to tell you that I fully believe I am bisexual.

Bisexuality for me isn't a 50/50 split. I am more attracted to men than I am to women, but at the end of the day I am still somewhat attracted to women too - and the attraction I feel is the more traditional binary sense. I also still believe that I'm not really that sexual or lustful, and that I am far more romantically invested in people than sexually, but it's pretty clear to me now that I do feel sexual attraction.

I feel like I have cheated everyone, in real life and here, and that feeling of shame will keep lingering over me for a long time. But at least now, I can begin being truthful to myself and all of you, and keep building on myself from this point on. Happiness stems from being honest with yourself more than anything, and I would advise everyone in a similar situation just to believe in themselves and one day, you'll have the comfort to feel confident and honest in yourself.