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Post by Laurinda on Sept 16, 2015 21:57:47 GMT 1
I mentioned that the part that can be found on the first page is only the small portion - what I have found at the time. I have more now and haven't gotten to update it. And to answer your question, no I haven't heared those words, but I have heard about people being attracted to intelligence just didn't know it had a term. Thanks for the info  |
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Post by Shovkovskyi/Peter on Sept 17, 2015 6:38:33 GMT 1
I mentioned that the part that can be found on the first page is only the small portion - what I have found at the time. I have more now and haven't gotten to update it. And to answer your question, no I haven't heared those words, but I have heard about people being attracted to intelligence just didn't know it had a term. Thanks for the info Then I just didn't notice you mentioning about it You're welcome! These 2 I found accidentaly, but I know that if we'd search deaper, then we'd found not only some... |
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Post by Tufkai on Sept 28, 2015 20:57:38 GMT 1
I just came across this video -
Back in the days when homophobics didn't have the AIDS virus to exploit...
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Post by Callum on Oct 27, 2015 17:21:57 GMT 1
Right, I've finally realised who I am today. I am a celibate asexual. Before going on to my long post: I want to make this absolutely clear. Asexuality ≠ celibacy, abstinence or chastity.There are more asexuals in the world than you think that have sex - either regularly or occasionally. The thing is; most of us don't bother about actually having it at all. We don't care. You might think sex is the most rave thing that you need to try - the majority of us will say "nah, it's not actually something that I want to do." I am not saying that most asexuals don't want sex, I am only putting in lack of sexual attraction into account. In the case where an asexual doesn't want sex at all, it can be considered as either celibacy or abstinence. Another thing that I need to make absolutely bloody clear is that celibacy ≠ abstinence.Celibacy means that you can't have sex. (i.e - I can't have sex because of religious reasons, I can't have sex because of a life-threatening condition, I can't have sex because my dick turns into a laser and will internally burn everyone to death that I have sex with).Abstinence means that you choose not to have sex. (i.e - I chose not to have sex because I don't want it).In my case, I feel that I can't have sex. I wasn't made like that - I genuinely feel that I can't have sex with anyone in my entire life. The reason remains unclear - either because I was born this way or that it just came on to me. Either way, I feel that I can now label myself a celibate asexual. p.s - please read this whole post and understand it, so when someone says to you that "asexuals do/can have sex, right?", you can annihilate them with your knowledge that supports them, and annihilate othrs that don't support that statement with your willpower  |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2015 17:30:57 GMT 1
Callum I fucking hate it when people say asexuals can't have sex and when they do they're heterosexual/homosexual/whatever all but asexual out of the sudden. It's not their body and brain, they can't feel what others feel.
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Post by Callum on Oct 27, 2015 17:39:11 GMT 1
Callum I fucking hate it when people say asexuals can't have sex and when they do they're heterosexual/homosexual/whatever all but asexual out of the sudden. It's not their body and brain, they can't feel what others feel. Exactly. What I am conveying is that asexuals can have sex. I don't know the adjectives for those that do (goodness, I feel so bad for saying they) unfortunately, but I think it's important to note that there are different types of asexuals that we all need to know about. There are also heterosexuals, homosexuals etc.. that are also celibate or abstinent. That's why I needed to make that clear that for people like me (who are celibate AND asexual), it's fucking painful to hear that "my kind can have sex, you just choose not to" or even the occassional "you're not asexual, just a guy that doesn't want sex" It irritates me to the core. It also opposes those that say " all asexuals can have sex," as I clearly stated, NOT ALL of them don't. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2015 20:56:30 GMT 1
what I want to say after reading Callum's post is that.. maybe, I'll sound like a boring pedant or something like this.
but one important things is not to let the labels get power over you. It's completely OK to label yourself as *scrolled up* celibate asexual or gay or just anything if you feel like this, but it's not OK to stick to this label if you don't feel like it anymore.
I'm saying this just because I remember that I used to make A LOT of life-long decisions when I was 14-15-16 and I had a really hard time saying farewell to them because I felt like I'm torn between something that I want to do and something I (as it looked like) must do. But a lot of musts are in fact just old, dirty labels that we hung on ourselves when we were completely different from what we are now.
And I hope that you, Callum, won't feel like "Oh no I told myself 3 years ago that I would never have any sex at all" if you actually start to feel like you want it.
(just to clarify - I'm saying neither "I don't believe in (celibate) asexuality, everyone will want to have sex when they're grown-up" nor "Being (celibate) asexual is wrong, you will understand that" nor "Being asexual is wrong, you must change yourself" and all those things, please, don't understand me wrong; what I want to say is that if, IF you change, don't even hesitate to let go of all your old labels).
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Post by nick on Dec 21, 2015 12:45:28 GMT 1
What he said, just remember that sexuality is really fluid and it can change, so don't be afraid if you start to feel differently. Like me, for instance. At one point, I thought I was asexual but after giving it time, I realized that I'm not.
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Post by Callum on Dec 24, 2015 15:52:52 GMT 1
what I want to say after reading Callum's post is that.. maybe, I'll sound like a boring pedant or something like this. but one important things is not to let the labels get power over you. It's completely OK to label yourself as *scrolled up* celibate asexual or gay or just anything if you feel like this, but it's not OK to stick to this label if you don't feel like it anymore. I'm saying this just because I remember that I used to make A LOT of life-long decisions when I was 14-15-16 and I had a really hard time saying farewell to them because I felt like I'm torn between something that I want to do and something I (as it looked like) must do. But a lot of musts are in fact just old, dirty labels that we hung on ourselves when we were completely different from what we are now. And I hope that you, Callum, won't feel like "Oh no I told myself 3 years ago that I would never have any sex at all" if you actually start to feel like you want it. (just to clarify - I'm saying neither "I don't believe in (celibate) asexuality, everyone will want to have sex when they're grown-up" nor "Being (celibate) asexual is wrong, you will understand that" nor "Being asexual is wrong, you must change yourself" and all those things, please, don't understand me wrong; what I want to say is that if, IF you change, don't even hesitate to let go of all your old labels). I only managed to read this post today and, to be honest, this is probably the most perfect thing I've read on this forum. I don't know if I've already mentioned this but I previously considered myself straight and then bisexual. During these "transition" phases, I felt conflicted and constantly under pressure. The only reason why I was under pressure is because of society's perception of being in the LGBT spectrum. Even if it's positive or negative, I never wanted to be at a further disadvantage or even an advantage. At that time I came out to my closest friends, but then immediately after that I felt like I was changing once more inside. I didn't want to let go of being hetero, neither bi, all because I felt like perceptions were constantly changing within ourselves. Now I'm here. I'm less reluctant to come out, but I always wait until someone brings the subject of LGBT up in a conversation. Why do I do this? Because I feel like I can "transition" again. Not because I am transitioning once more, but because if I do that, then I feel like I would let down a whole bunch of people. I just don't know why. I have always been a reluctant and adamant person in life - I just don't want disruption. But sometimes it gets the better of me and it throws me into some sort of mania. This post is already helping me so much should I ever need to.  The main reason why I posted my last post is because I had been told a few months back (March, iirc) that "oh my god, that's not who you are!!" by some person in real life who acts exactly like a Social Justice Warrior... I learned not to take them seriously afterwards but it was a trigger for me, in my head, to re-evaluate my whole life. I was shrouded in uncertainty. I'm more certain than I ever have been in my life about my sexuality now, but there's still a feeling that the phenomenon that is "transitioning" will happen again out of nowhere. Basically, like winning the lottery.  Thanks so much, this post really made my day.  |
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Post by europezgal08 on Feb 7, 2016 0:21:40 GMT 1
I am 21 years old and I am bisexual I've had sex with 2 men in my life. One of whom I was with for just over 4 years, although when it came to sex with him, he was very rough and abusive and even raped me while I was drunk. But what's done is done now, I guess  At least my current boyfriend isn't like that. I've been in relationships with men, but I also find myself sexually and romantically attracted to women. Most of the women I've been attracted to have been quite close friends of mine and I am very often afraid to tell them about my sexuality out of fear that I would lose them as a friend. I very often find it difficult to tell people about it because most of the time, they don't even believe me and tell me "Oh you have a boyfriend. You can't be bi." My family doesn't even know and I'm too scared to tell them because of the fear of being thrown out (they are quite religious) I'll admit, what I shared is very personal, but it feels good to finally be open about it |
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