Sexuality

[Christian AT]

Feb 7, 2016 0:21:40 GMT 1 europezgal08 said:

I am 21 years old and I am bisexual

I've had sex with 2 men in my life. One of whom I was with for just over 4 years, although when it came to sex with him, he was very rough and abusive and even raped me while I was drunk. But what's done is done now, I guess At least my current boyfriend isn't like that.

I've been in relationships with men, but I also find myself sexually and romantically attracted to women. Most of the women I've been attracted to have been quite close friends of mine and I am very often afraid to tell them about my sexuality out of fear that I would lose them as a friend. I very often find it difficult to tell people about it because most of the time, they don't even believe me and tell me "Oh you have a boyfriend. You can't be bi." My family doesn't even know and I'm too scared to tell them because of the fear of being thrown out (they are quite religious)

I'll admit, what I shared is very personal, but it feels good to finally be open about it

Thanks for telling us this.

Well it's really bad what happened to you 4 years ago Sorry for that .. and I hope you're happy with your boyfriend

When I came out in front of my friends, nobody, really nobody said anything bad. I was afraid of some male friends, but they don't have any problem with that. One of them hugged me and told me he is proud of me.. which was really nice. And even my really best friend.. who is Croatian and religious and normally he doesn't like gay people (I thought that, because he often made jokes about gays.. ). I told him that and he said "Really mate? Give me a bro-fist". What I want to say: People in our generation are not that bad as many people think. Well at least here in Austria. Till now, I think 50 people know I am gay and I recieved 0 negative comments. Some people say it's luck, I say I have the right friends. I don't know where you are from, but in Western Europe it's no problem being gay or even bi. Bi people are more tolerated (especially women). The thing with your parents .. well if they love you they don't have a problem, if you are not sure about it, hide it as long as you can. And if you are sure, try to talk with your mum when you have a close relation to her, otherwise to your father. Do you have a sister or brother? If yes, tell her/him first. In my case, my sister said she is happy for me (she even cried ). My mother was kinda shocked, but she only needed some days to realise. Ok she asked me from where my love bites are. I told her from my boyfriend. She was like ooooooook wtf. hahahahah. But then she talked with my aunt about that and now both have no problem with that.

Here is a selfie for you

SPOILER: Click to show

[europezgal08]

Feb 7, 2016 0:48:05 GMT 1 Christian AT said:

Feb 7, 2016 0:21:40 GMT 1 europezgal08 said:

I am 21 years old and I am bisexual

I've had sex with 2 men in my life. One of whom I was with for just over 4 years, although when it came to sex with him, he was very rough and abusive and even raped me while I was drunk. But what's done is done now, I guess At least my current boyfriend isn't like that.

I've been in relationships with men, but I also find myself sexually and romantically attracted to women. Most of the women I've been attracted to have been quite close friends of mine and I am very often afraid to tell them about my sexuality out of fear that I would lose them as a friend. I very often find it difficult to tell people about it because most of the time, they don't even believe me and tell me "Oh you have a boyfriend. You can't be bi." My family doesn't even know and I'm too scared to tell them because of the fear of being thrown out (they are quite religious)

I'll admit, what I shared is very personal, but it feels good to finally be open about it

Thanks for telling us this.

Well it's really bad what happened to you 4 years ago Sorry for that .. and I hope you're happy with your boyfriend

When I came out in front of my friends, nobody, really nobody said anything bad. I was afraid of some male friends, but they don't have any problem with that. One of them hugged me and told me he is proud of me.. which was really nice. And even my really best friend.. who is Croatian and religious and normally he doesn't like gay people (I thought that, because he often made jokes about gays.. ). I told him that and he said "Really mate? Give me a bro-fist". What I want to say: People in our generation are not that bad as many people think. Well at least here in Austria. Till now, I think 50 people know I am gay and I recieved 0 negative comments. Some people say it's luck, I say I have the right friends. I don't know where you are from, but in Western Europe it's no problem being gay or even bi. Bi people are more tolerated (especially women). The thing with your parents .. well if they love you they don't have a problem, if you are not sure about it, hide it as long as you can. And if you are sure, try to talk with your mum when you have a close relation to her, otherwise to your father. Do you have a sister or brother? If yes, tell her/him first. In my case, my sister said she is happy for me (she even cried ). My mother was kinda shocked, but she only needed some days to realise. Ok she asked me from where my love bites are. I told her from my boyfriend. She was like ooooooook wtf. hahahahah. But then she talked with my aunt about that and now both have no problem with that.

Here is a selfie for you

SPOILER: Click to show

Thanks for understanding and sharing your story. I have no problem with you being gay (why would I)

It wasn't 4 years ago, I was in a relationship with the guy who was rough and abusive and raped me for 4 years. Sorry for any confusion there, but I'm happy to be out of that relationship now


I've only really came out to a few people, including my ex who saw it as an "easy opportunity to have a threesome with two girls as it is every straight man's dream" and that really hurt me because he saw it as a joke (my new boyfriend knows and hes very supportive and understanding). Its not like the people I tell give me negative comments, its either an "Oh OK, but you don't fancy me though right cause I'm straight" or a "Oh you have a boyfriend though so you can't be bi" so I try and hide it from people. I live in the UK, so yeah Western Europe. I think it is just the fact that the friends I have aren't as understanding as I thought as they either take it as a joke, don't believe I'm bi or they just stop talking to me out of fear that I would be attracted to them. I have one sister, who is quite religious, but nowhere near as much as my parents so maybe I could tell her.

Thanks for the selfie Here's one for you

SPOILER: Click to show

[Christian AT]

Feb 7, 2016 10:29:53 GMT 1 europezgal08 said:

Feb 7, 2016 0:48:05 GMT 1 Christian AT said:

Thanks for telling us this.

Well it's really bad what happened to you 4 years ago Sorry for that .. and I hope you're happy with your boyfriend

When I came out in front of my friends, nobody, really nobody said anything bad. I was afraid of some male friends, but they don't have any problem with that. One of them hugged me and told me he is proud of me.. which was really nice. And even my really best friend.. who is Croatian and religious and normally he doesn't like gay people (I thought that, because he often made jokes about gays.. ). I told him that and he said "Really mate? Give me a bro-fist". What I want to say: People in our generation are not that bad as many people think. Well at least here in Austria. Till now, I think 50 people know I am gay and I recieved 0 negative comments. Some people say it's luck, I say I have the right friends. I don't know where you are from, but in Western Europe it's no problem being gay or even bi. Bi people are more tolerated (especially women). The thing with your parents .. well if they love you they don't have a problem, if you are not sure about it, hide it as long as you can. And if you are sure, try to talk with your mum when you have a close relation to her, otherwise to your father. Do you have a sister or brother? If yes, tell her/him first. In my case, my sister said she is happy for me (she even cried ). My mother was kinda shocked, but she only needed some days to realise. Ok she asked me from where my love bites are. I told her from my boyfriend. She was like ooooooook wtf. hahahahah. But then she talked with my aunt about that and now both have no problem with that.

Here is a selfie for you

SPOILER: Click to show

Thanks for understanding and sharing your story. I have no problem with you being gay (why would I)

It wasn't 4 years ago, I was in a relationship with the guy who was rough and abusive and raped me for 4 years. Sorry for any confusion there, but I'm happy to be out of that relationship now


I've only really came out to a few people, including my ex who saw it as an "easy opportunity to have a threesome with two girls as it is every straight man's dream" and that really hurt me because he saw it as a joke (my new boyfriend knows and hes very supportive and understanding). Its not like the people I tell give me negative comments, its either an "Oh OK, but you don't fancy me though right cause I'm straight" or a "Oh you have a boyfriend though so you can't be bi" so I try and hide it from people. I live in the UK, so yeah Western Europe. I think it is just the fact that the friends I have aren't as understanding as I thought as they either take it as a joke, don't believe I'm bi or they just stop talking to me out of fear that I would be attracted to them. I have one sister, who is quite religious, but nowhere near as much as my parents so maybe I could tell her.

Thanks for the selfie Here's one for you

SPOILER: Click to show

oh wow this is hard

Well I always say that friends are only yor friends when they stand behind you in everything you are and do. I am lucky to have many of them, so I don't know how it feels what it's like to get dumb answers or anything like that..
Well maybe you ask your sister to come over, because you need to talk, maybe she would do that

hehe cute selfie

[europezgal08]

Feb 7, 2016 11:15:58 GMT 1 Christian AT said:

Feb 7, 2016 10:29:53 GMT 1 europezgal08 said:

Thanks for understanding and sharing your story. I have no problem with you being gay (why would I)

It wasn't 4 years ago, I was in a relationship with the guy who was rough and abusive and raped me for 4 years. Sorry for any confusion there, but I'm happy to be out of that relationship now


I've only really came out to a few people, including my ex who saw it as an "easy opportunity to have a threesome with two girls as it is every straight man's dream" and that really hurt me because he saw it as a joke (my new boyfriend knows and hes very supportive and understanding). Its not like the people I tell give me negative comments, its either an "Oh OK, but you don't fancy me though right cause I'm straight" or a "Oh you have a boyfriend though so you can't be bi" so I try and hide it from people. I live in the UK, so yeah Western Europe. I think it is just the fact that the friends I have aren't as understanding as I thought as they either take it as a joke, don't believe I'm bi or they just stop talking to me out of fear that I would be attracted to them. I have one sister, who is quite religious, but nowhere near as much as my parents so maybe I could tell her.

Thanks for the selfie Here's one for you

SPOILER: Click to show

oh wow this is hard

Well I always say that friends are only yor friends when they stand behind you in everything you are and do. I am lucky to have many of them, so I don't know how it feels what it's like to get dumb answers or anything like that..
Well maybe you ask your sister to come over, because you need to talk, maybe she would do that

hehe cute selfie

Yeah the response I get from some people is rather surprising and it makes me afraid to tell anyone else. But I'm quite glad that my boyfriend and a small group of friends know and they understand and they care.
I will talk to my sister about it.

Thanks

[Josh's Tattoo (Inactive)]

Feb 7, 2016 0:21:40 GMT 1 europezgal08 said:

I am 21 years old and I am bisexual

I've had sex with 2 men in my life. One of whom I was with for just over 4 years, although when it came to sex with him, he was very rough and abusive and even raped me while I was drunk. But what's done is done now, I guess At least my current boyfriend isn't like that.

I've been in relationships with men, but I also find myself sexually and romantically attracted to women. Most of the women I've been attracted to have been quite close friends of mine and I am very often afraid to tell them about my sexuality out of fear that I would lose them as a friend. I very often find it difficult to tell people about it because most of the time, they don't even believe me and tell me "Oh you have a boyfriend. You can't be bi." My family doesn't even know and I'm too scared to tell them because of the fear of being thrown out (they are quite religious)

I'll admit, what I shared is very personal, but it feels good to finally be open about it

Really sorry to hear what happened to u man 
at least you have found someone that will take care of u

[Jan]

Some of these coming out stories are hilarious, some just sooo cute

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Lol I didn't read the first part and I thought Jan was telling us how he came out to his parents

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Jan 22, 2015 17:30:39 GMT 1 Laurinda said:

Vocabulary

Romantic attraction - is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person associated with love.

Platonic love - is a type of love that is chaste and non-sexual. The term is named after Plato, who was the first to describe this kind of love.

Sexual attraction - is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.

Sex - Organisms of many species are specialized into male ♂ and female ♀ varieties, each known as a sex.

Male ♂ - organism is the physiological sex which produces sperm.

Female ♀ - is the sex of an organism, or a part of an organism, which produces non-mobile ova (egg cells).

Intersex - is a variation in sex characteristics including chromosomes, gonads, or genitals that do not allow an individual to be distinctly identified as male or female.

Gender - is the range of characteristics pertaini BULLSHIT

Masculinity - is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with boys and men. Masculinity is made up of both socially defined and biologically created factors. This makes it distinct from the definition of the biological male sex, as both men and women can exhibit masculine traits and behaviors. 

Femininity - (also called feminity, girlishness, womanliness or womanhood) is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with girls and women.

Androgyny - is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. Sexual ambiguity may be found in fashion, gender identity, sexual identity, or sexual lifestyle. It can also refer to biological intersex physicality, especially with regard to plant and human sexuality.

Gender role - is a theoretical construct involving a set of social and behavioral norms that, within a specific culture, are widely considered to be socially appropriate for individuals of a specific sex. The perception of gender roles includes attitudes, actions, and personality traits associated with a particular gender within that culture. Gender roles are predominantly considered within a family context as well as within society in general and may collectively be referred to as gender stereotypes.

Gender identity - is a person's private sense, and subjective experience, of their own gender. In all societies, however, some individuals do not identify with some (or all) of the aspects of gender that are assigned to their biological sex.

Heterosexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between persons of opposite sex or gender. (majority rule)

Homosexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between members of the same sex or gender. (stereotype rule)

Bisexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior toward both males and females, and may also encompass romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender identity or to a person irrespective of that person's biological sex or gender, which is sometimes termed pansexuality is not bisexual!

Pansexuality - or omnisexuality, is sexual attraction, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction toward people of any sex or gender identity. Self-identified pansexuals may consider pansexuality a sexual orientation, and refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.

Asexuality - (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. It may be considered the lack of a sexual orientation, or one of the four variations thereof, alongside heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality. Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy, which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal or religious beliefs. cuddle > food > sex (callum approves too!)

Sexual identity - is how one thinks of oneself in terms of whom one is romantically or sexually attracted to. Sexual identity may also refer to sexual orientation identity, which is when people identify or dis-identify with a sexual orientation or choose not to identify with a sexual orientation.

Polysexuality - is the attraction to multiple genders and/or sexes. ew

Polyamory - is the practice, desire, or acceptance of intimate relationships that are not exclusive with respect to other sexual or intimate relationships, with knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It may or may not include polysexuality.

if I had to make notes

[Laurinda]

Aug 1, 2016 22:09:55 GMT 1 @garameaning said:

Jan 22, 2015 17:30:39 GMT 1 Laurinda said:

Vocabulary

Romantic attraction - is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person associated with love.

Platonic love - is a type of love that is chaste and non-sexual. The term is named after Plato, who was the first to describe this kind of love.

Sexual attraction - is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.

Sex - Organisms of many species are specialized into male ♂ and female ♀ varieties, each known as a sex.

Male ♂ - organism is the physiological sex which produces sperm.

Female ♀ - is the sex of an organism, or a part of an organism, which produces non-mobile ova (egg cells).

Intersex - is a variation in sex characteristics including chromosomes, gonads, or genitals that do not allow an individual to be distinctly identified as male or female.

Gender - is the range of characteristics pertaini BULLSHIT

Masculinity - is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with boys and men. Masculinity is made up of both socially defined and biologically created factors. This makes it distinct from the definition of the biological male sex, as both men and women can exhibit masculine traits and behaviors. 

Femininity - (also called feminity, girlishness, womanliness or womanhood) is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with girls and women.

Androgyny - is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. Sexual ambiguity may be found in fashion, gender identity, sexual identity, or sexual lifestyle. It can also refer to biological intersex physicality, especially with regard to plant and human sexuality.

Gender role - is a theoretical construct involving a set of social and behavioral norms that, within a specific culture, are widely considered to be socially appropriate for individuals of a specific sex. The perception of gender roles includes attitudes, actions, and personality traits associated with a particular gender within that culture. Gender roles are predominantly considered within a family context as well as within society in general and may collectively be referred to as gender stereotypes.

Gender identity - is a person's private sense, and subjective experience, of their own gender. In all societies, however, some individuals do not identify with some (or all) of the aspects of gender that are assigned to their biological sex.

Heterosexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between persons of opposite sex or gender. (majority rule)

Homosexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between members of the same sex or gender. (stereotype rule)

Bisexuality - is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior toward both males and females, and may also encompass romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender identity or to a person irrespective of that person's biological sex or gender, which is sometimes termed pansexuality is not bisexual!

Pansexuality - or omnisexuality, is sexual attraction, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction toward people of any sex or gender identity. Self-identified pansexuals may consider pansexuality a sexual orientation, and refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.

Asexuality - (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. It may be considered the lack of a sexual orientation, or one of the four variations thereof, alongside heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality. Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy, which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal or religious beliefs. cuddle > food > sex (callum approves too!)

Sexual identity - is how one thinks of oneself in terms of whom one is romantically or sexually attracted to. Sexual identity may also refer to sexual orientation identity, which is when people identify or dis-identify with a sexual orientation or choose not to identify with a sexual orientation.

Polysexuality - is the attraction to multiple genders and/or sexes. ew

Polyamory - is the practice, desire, or acceptance of intimate relationships that are not exclusive with respect to other sexual or intimate relationships, with knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It may or may not include polysexuality.

if I had to make notes

Okay. All was taken from Wikipedia. I do not study sexology, but I am interested.
Just curious, why did you cross out "Gender" and "Gender role"?

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Aug 2, 2016 2:09:30 GMT 1 Laurinda said:

Aug 1, 2016 22:09:55 GMT 1 @garameaning said:

if I had to make notes

Okay. All was taken from Wikipedia. I do not study sexology, but I am interested.
Just curious, why did you cross out "Gender" and "Gender role"?

I'm just joking.