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Post by kev on Jan 6, 2020 13:57:36 GMT 1
To avoid that anybody feels offended by an award, some changes were made. Failed. As the so called "drama queen of 2018" according to the shameful Awards of last year I am perfectly aware of a phenomenon that has been decaying the climate on the forum for many years, and makes me extremely uncomfortable in this community, as if I were a stranger infiltrated in a party I never got invited to who could be spotted and expelled at every moment. And the reactions when I said I felt offended by my Award last year are a perfect illustration of this. Basically, many people including moderators and admins said: "You shouldn't feel offended, that was just humour. You take things too seriously." You must be aware that when you laugh at someone, there is always a risk that he feels offended by what you're saying. What is just a friendly joke in your mind may be perceived as an insult. I shouldn't feel obliged to remind this, as it is completely trivial on every single other community I belong to. You have to be careful when you speak to someone you don't know, especially in written communication, and especially with people that don't share your cultural and ethnical background. I will add that some people don't react when they feel offended (Japanese people for example often keep this kind of feelings for themselves) so you can never be sure. I also have a friend who has Asperger syndrome. She is a very nice and open person, but she is unable to deal with second degree, so she may be hurt by completely innocent jokes. Conclusion: when you don't know someone well, just avoid to make stupid jokes on him/her, and if it unintentionally occurs (nobody's perfect), just apologize. That's a very simple rule that should apply to everybody here. Unnecessary. You'll never learn, will you?
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Post by Aglan on Jan 6, 2020 14:00:05 GMT 1
What a beautifly lovely hopeful day everyone. Who wants a hope bagel? Also this Ana girl seems very mean.
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Post by Oisín on Jan 6, 2020 14:08:56 GMT 1
i don’t know what your problem is but, this sure as hell was not the way to sort it. if you’ve contest drama on a discord, making a long ass statement about it and tagging others to drag them in is pretty pathetic.
and italix, just give up. this has nothing at all to do with you and at this stage you’re clearly just trying to stir shit. grow up.
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Post by Þórir on Jan 6, 2020 14:56:20 GMT 1
In any even remotely YSC related thing as this statement, Phil has always tagged the entire contest, even some of those who don't partake anymore. Yusuf, that will have been why you were tagged. As for the rest of you, I have no clue how this blew up - did moderators get pinged as well or smth?
I don't know why this couldn't have been done on the YSC Discord server instead of starting the drama here, and also I don't know why it was necesary to show it all in German when none of us speak it here anyway
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Post by Eke on Jan 6, 2020 15:02:15 GMT 1
In any even remotely YSC related thing as this statement, Phil has always tagged the entire contest, even some of those who don't partake anymore. Yusuf, that will have been why you were tagged. As for the rest of you, I have no clue how this blew up - did moderators get pinged as well or smth? When italix quoted Kevin, yeah. Also people just found this thread through recent posts, I guess. I don't really care about the main topic of this thread, that's for this contest and the host(s) to sort out. italix' reply is what made me post here.
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Post by Wysteria on Jan 6, 2020 16:01:19 GMT 1
To avoid that anybody feels offended by an award, some changes were made. Failed. As the so called "drama queen of 2018" according to the shameful Awards of last year I am perfectly aware of a phenomenon that has been decaying the climate on the forum for many years, and makes me extremely uncomfortable in this community, as if I were a stranger infiltrated in a party I never got invited to who could be spotted and expelled at every moment. And the reactions when I said I felt offended by my Award last year are a perfect illustration of this. Basically, many people including moderators and admins said: "You shouldn't feel offended, that was just humour. You take things too seriously." You must be aware that when you laugh at someone, there is always a risk that he feels offended by what you're saying. What is just a friendly joke in your mind may be perceived as an insult. I shouldn't feel obliged to remind this, as it is completely trivial on every single other community I belong to. You have to be careful when you speak to someone you don't know, especially in written communication, and especially with people that don't share your cultural and ethnical background. I will add that some people don't react when they feel offended (Japanese people for example often keep this kind of feelings for themselves) so you can never be sure. I also have a friend who has Asperger syndrome. She is a very nice and open person, but she is unable to deal with second degree, so she may be hurt by completely innocent jokes. Conclusion: when you don't know someone well, just avoid to make stupid jokes on him/her, and if it unintentionally occurs (nobody's perfect), just apologize. That's a very simple rule that should apply to everybody here. girl I-
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Post by Levi21 on Jan 6, 2020 16:03:14 GMT 1
who wants cawfee?
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Post by italix on Jan 6, 2020 17:36:06 GMT 1
Failed. As the so called "drama queen of 2018" according to the shameful Awards of last year I am perfectly aware of a phenomenon that has been decaying the climate on the forum for many years, and makes me extremely uncomfortable in this community, as if I were a stranger infiltrated in a party I never got invited to who could be spotted and expelled at every moment. And the reactions when I said I felt offended by my Award last year are a perfect illustration of this. Basically, many people including moderators and admins said: "You shouldn't feel offended, that was just humour. You take things too seriously." You must be aware that when you laugh at someone, there is always a risk that he feels offended by what you're saying. What is just a friendly joke in your mind may be perceived as an insult. I shouldn't feel obliged to remind this, as it is completely trivial on every single other community I belong to. You have to be careful when you speak to someone you don't know, especially in written communication, and especially with people that don't share your cultural and ethnical background. I will add that some people don't react when they feel offended (Japanese people for example often keep this kind of feelings for themselves) so you can never be sure. I also have a friend who has Asperger syndrome. She is a very nice and open person, but she is unable to deal with second degree, so she may be hurt by completely innocent jokes. Conclusion: when you don't know someone well, just avoid to make stupid jokes on him/her, and if it unintentionally occurs (nobody's perfect), just apologize. That's a very simple rule that should apply to everybody here. Next time I'll need comments from you, I'll call you.
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Post by italix on Jan 6, 2020 17:37:06 GMT 1
Failed. As the so called "drama queen of 2018" according to the shameful Awards of last year I am perfectly aware of a phenomenon that has been decaying the climate on the forum for many years, and makes me extremely uncomfortable in this community, as if I were a stranger infiltrated in a party I never got invited to who could be spotted and expelled at every moment. And the reactions when I said I felt offended by my Award last year are a perfect illustration of this. Basically, many people including moderators and admins said: "You shouldn't feel offended, that was just humour. You take things too seriously." You must be aware that when you laugh at someone, there is always a risk that he feels offended by what you're saying. What is just a friendly joke in your mind may be perceived as an insult. I shouldn't feel obliged to remind this, as it is completely trivial on every single other community I belong to. You have to be careful when you speak to someone you don't know, especially in written communication, and especially with people that don't share your cultural and ethnical background. I will add that some people don't react when they feel offended (Japanese people for example often keep this kind of feelings for themselves) so you can never be sure. I also have a friend who has Asperger syndrome. She is a very nice and open person, but she is unable to deal with second degree, so she may be hurt by completely innocent jokes. Conclusion: when you don't know someone well, just avoid to make stupid jokes on him/her, and if it unintentionally occurs (nobody's perfect), just apologize. That's a very simple rule that should apply to everybody here. Unnecessary. You'll never learn, will you? Your post shows precisely that YOU haven't learnt.
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Post by italix on Jan 6, 2020 17:39:49 GMT 1
Failed. As the so called "drama queen of 2018" according to the shameful Awards of last year I am perfectly aware of a phenomenon that has been decaying the climate on the forum for many years, and makes me extremely uncomfortable in this community, as if I were a stranger infiltrated in a party I never got invited to who could be spotted and expelled at every moment. And the reactions when I said I felt offended by my Award last year are a perfect illustration of this. Basically, many people including moderators and admins said: "You shouldn't feel offended, that was just humour. You take things too seriously." You must be aware that when you laugh at someone, there is always a risk that he feels offended by what you're saying. What is just a friendly joke in your mind may be perceived as an insult. I shouldn't feel obliged to remind this, as it is completely trivial on every single other community I belong to. You have to be careful when you speak to someone you don't know, especially in written communication, and especially with people that don't share your cultural and ethnical background. I will add that some people don't react when they feel offended (Japanese people for example often keep this kind of feelings for themselves) so you can never be sure. I also have a friend who has Asperger syndrome. She is a very nice and open person, but she is unable to deal with second degree, so she may be hurt by completely innocent jokes. Conclusion: when you don't know someone well, just avoid to make stupid jokes on him/her, and if it unintentionally occurs (nobody's perfect), just apologize. That's a very simple rule that should apply to everybody here. I'm unfamiliar with Ana, but the awards did not even concern her and this thread is Phirl translating a message from Ana. Phirl didn't seem to mind winning that award as is obvious by his post in the thread. What was the point of this post? All you're doing here is making the situation about yourself by opening old wounds from a year ago. These wounds never closed - you and the admins and the moderators even refused me the right to feel offended.
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